By Mari City – Your Path to Embodied Pleasure
Being a mother is an act of radical love. It calls for your attention, your time, your body, your energy. It asks you to be present in ways you never imagined, sometimes even when your body is running on empty. And while that devotion is beautiful, it doesn’t mean you should disappear in the process.
You still belong to yourself.
This is your reminder that you get to feel good in your body. You get to feel sensual, alive, connected. Even if there are toys on the floor. Even if you're holding a baby on your hip. Even if you haven’t slept through the night in months. Especially then.
Reconnection doesn’t need to be grand. It needs to be yours.
Start small. Set aside time—fifteen minutes, one hour, a full evening—whatever fits. Block it in your calendar like you would any appointment. Make it non-negotiable. This is time for you.
It could look like:
- A solo walk with music in your ears and no destination.
- Resting your body in a warm bath with no rush to get out.
- Stretching, moving, dancing, letting your body speak.
- Meeting a friend who makes you laugh.
- Booking a date with your partner, or yourself.
This time isn’t a luxury. It’s how you come home to your body.
Your body has changed. It has grown and carried and stretched and adapted. And it’s still yours. Sensuality might feel different now—and that’s okay. This is your chance to get curious.
Ask yourself:
- How do I want to feel today?
- What part of my body is asking for attention?
- Do I want to be held, to be touched, to be still?
Maybe your body wants gentle movement. Maybe it wants stillness. Maybe it wants pleasure. Maybe it just wants to breathe.
You don’t need to wait for the perfect time.
This is where the sensual side of your self-care can begin to bloom. Pleasure doesn’t always mean climax. It might mean presence. It might mean sensation. It might mean a moment of feeling you again.
Try this: Pick a toy from your collection—yes, that one. Give it a name. Let it be your companion, your curious little co-pilot. It doesn’t even have to touch your genitals. Let it explore your collarbone, your thighs, the back of your neck. Or simply let it rest beside you while you touch your skin, breathe, and listen to what your body wants today.
You get to play. You get to explore. You get to feel without guilt.
And when you do, when you come back to yourself even in small moments, it becomes easier to keep giving love to your family—without losing yourself along the way.
This is your sensuality. Your pleasure. Your journey.
And if you’re looking for tools to support you, here are three gentle gifts we love for this season:
- The Rose: Our soft and elegant flower-shaped toy. Just like every flower deserves a bloom, so do you. One side offers gentle vibrations you can play with around your body—on your neck, chest, thighs. The other side fits comfortably in your hand, letting you explore sensation through touch. It’s about connection, not intensity. A perfect Mother's Day gift to give yourself—or ask someone to give it to you.
- The Egg: A slower, more sensorial invitation. No vibration, no rush—just you and your body. Try it with a little water-based lube around your vulva and move gently. It’s about discovering the sensations you like and building from there. Perfect for slowing down, softening into presence.
- The Glass Wand: For the holistic, natural-hearted mama. This toy lets you play with temperature—warm it, cool it, explore inside or out. It’s elegant, grounded, and invites you to deepen your connection with sensation.
Whatever you choose, let it be a moment of coming home to yourself. You don’t have to wait. You don’t have to earn it.
Silksecret is here with tools to support you, whenever you’re ready.
